Why Must I Walk Alone?

By Jaime Davila, MA, LPC, NCC He stands surrounded by strangers, some are friends, some are colleagues, but all are strangers to some degree. What if they knew it all, that is, who he truly is? No, not the story that he has projected and skillfully displayed for his friends, but the story that runs only within him, a story he keeps secret. “I fear that if I tell too much of my story ... well, I am not exactly sure what I fear but I do know the hesitation quite well; it’s what keeps me f...
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The Importance of Empathy

By Lavinia Ball-Marian, MA, LPC According to the dictionary, empathy is “the feeling that you understand and share another person's experiences and emotions: the ability to share someone else's feelings.” In my work with parents and children, I often find that empathy is almost non-existent in certain individuals. They understand that someone is hurt or in pain or grieving but have no ability to put themselves in that person’s shoes. A heart without empathy is like a plant without water – it...
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The Couples Dance of Attachment

By Lesley Cunningham, MA, LPC If I have learned nothing else from Dancing with the Stars, it is at least a lovely metaphor for the dancing that couples do to maintain their most comfortable attachment level based on the early pattern they learned in childhood. There are many dance styles performed every week on the fun to watch show, but for our purposes, we will discuss the Tango, a sensual dance involving intimate connected holding, intense eye contact, and dramatic poses; and the Quick S...
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School Attendance: A Slippery Slope

By Eleanor Harrison, PhD School attendance is something I never thought about as a parent. My children went to school most days unless one of them was sick. My friends sometimes kept their kids home for “free” days or went on long vacations during the school year. When I took a job with a school district as a support to the truancy program, I learned a number of things about school attendance that I thought I would share with you. Attendance Habits Start in Kindergarten Studies have shown...
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