The Perfect Storm – Perfectionism in Relationships

By Lesley S. Cunningham, MA, LPC We all say, “No one’s perfect!” But there is a subset of people who frankly strive to be and can seem pretty close. Born Perfect We are born as perfect as we will ever be: untainted, un-programmed, and un-manipulated. But soon thereafter, our well-intentioned parents may begin “fulfilling their dreams” through us, consciously and unconsciously. The dreams for their children hopefully will be translated into shaping behaviors that turn boys into success...
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Holiday Coping: Take a Deep Breath

By Eleanor Harrison, PhD Yes, take a deep breath. The holidays are fast approaching and many people find this time of year stressful. Whether it’s because you have the dreaded Christmas party coming, you are cooking the turkey this year, Aunt Marge will be in town for the holidays, or you are living alone and fear loneliness, the holidays can be very difficult. The advertisements don’t help for they portray loving families with loads of money and perfect homes. In the movies nobody’s family arg...
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Easy Fixes in Therapy and in Life

By Marta Oko-Riebau, MA, NLC, PhD Candidate "Nothing ever comes to one, that is worth having, except as a result of hard work." ~ Booker T. Washington I have been using an internet marketplace to connect to people in need of therapy. I was very surprised to see how many people who are trying to incorporate a positive change in their life seek hypnotherapy instead of psychotherapy. It made me wonder what it is about hypnotherapy that makes it so appealing to so many people. According ...
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Drawn to Danger

By Alexandria Hayes, MA, LPC, NCC Do you know someone who always seems to be in crisis? His car breaks down on a major highway. She trips on the steps and breaks an arm. His wallet, keys, or phone is stolen. Her car or house is broken into. These types of events – or worse – seem to be happening all the time; this person experiences one disaster after another. Why? A person’s attraction to catastrophe may be the result of past traumatic experiences. There are several reasons for this,...
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