Depression Impacts Men, Too

By Jaime Davila, MA, LPC Do You Feel Like You are Losing Control or Focus? Do you feel an underlying dissatisfaction with your life that you’re unable to pinpoint? Do you feel disconnected from your loved ones or find yourself constantly at odds with them? Are you more irritable or impatient than you used to be? Are you considering changing jobs or careers but uncertain how to proceed? Do you worry that you haven’t been able to find a way to live that feels authentic? Are you struggling wi...
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Why Must I Walk Alone?

By Jaime Davila, MA, LPC, NCC He stands surrounded by strangers, some are friends, some are colleagues, but all are strangers to some degree. What if they knew it all, that is, who he truly is? No, not the story that he has projected and skillfully displayed for his friends, but the story that runs only within him, a story he keeps secret. “I fear that if I tell too much of my story ... well, I am not exactly sure what I fear but I do know the hesitation quite well; it’s what keeps me f...
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Hope

By Jaime Davila, MA, LPC, NCC  "A human being without hope is like a walking corpse…" ~ Schumacher, 2003 What drives us human beings to continue living from day to day? Is our drive to live simply a biological mechanism that enables us to survive as a species? What role does hope play? Although at first these may seem like odd questions, if we slow down and really consider them, there is a lot here to explore. The dictionary defines hope as "wish, expect, look forward to something, of...
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Counseling – What is it Like?

By Jaime Davila, MA, LPCC, NCC The decision to seek help from a professional counselor is something that some of us are more comfortable with than others. I often get the question from prospective clients, “What is counseling like, what do we do?” Although te process is hard to capture in words because it is unique to every person, I will attempt to give you an overview. When I meet you for the first time, I will ask basic information about your concerns, why you are looking into counseling,...
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Why I Can’t Say, “Good Job!”

  By Jaime Davila, MA, LPC, NCC Becoming a father can be a great and frightening experience all at the same time. Once the household settles down a bit – well, at least to the new normal, we are quickly physically and emotionally consumed beyond what we previously thought was possible. As we grow into this new role of father and our partner into his or her new role, we witness many enjoyable and challenging life events – from the transition from foods that don’t really resemble food t...
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Married But Feeling Single?

by Jaime Davila, MA, LPC, NCC You might be wondering what I mean by my title, or perhaps you already know what I am alluding to. For those of you who aren’t sure, I am speaking of the emotional distance that sneaks into our intimate relationships. Relationship expert John Gottman, Ph.D., reports that emotional distance is one of the key issues that leads to separation and in some cases infidelity. Relationships are complicated arrangements that can seem simple on the surface. Add in the busy...
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Men Helping Men

By Jaime Davila, MA, LPC, NCC If it doesn’t feel natural for you as a man to even be reading this and contemplating counseling, then you are in the right place. As a man who has experienced the process of recognizing that not all is well but still trying to deal with it on my own, I know it can be an exhausting experience, and one that ended up in my seeking help from others. For me it started with individual counseling and eventually transitioned to a group of friends who were willing to set a...
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