Trauma Dynamics: Treatment for Complex PTSD

By Alexandria Hayes, MA, LPC, NCC Trauma Dynamics is a therapy method for treating complex post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). PTSD results from an unresolved experience that was or felt life threatening. Simple PTSD results from a single incident, such as a car accident, assault, fire, or natural disaster. Complex PTSD results from repeated or ongoing incidents, such as childhood abuse, multiple combat deployments, or captivity. The reason for the distinction is that the impact of traum...
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Grandparents Raising Grandchildren

By Lavinia Ball-Marian, MA, LPC In my work with children and their families, I notice that there are more and more grandparents raising their grandchildren. This has become a trend due to very unfortunate circumstances: parents in prison or with mental health problems that render them unable to care for a child, child abuse, substance abuse, financial difficulties, death. When you have to embark in this journey of raising grandchildren, many emotions and feelings come to the surface. Some em...
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The Middle Way – Finding the Balance for Couples

By Lesley S. Cunningham, MA, LPC After watching a TV show that extolled the idea of the Middle Way, as in Buddhism, it seemed like a very nice solution to life in general … and, for couples, marriages/partnerships, in particular. In this sutta, the Buddha describes the middle way as a path of moderation, between the extremes of sensual indulgence and self-mortification. This, according to him, was the path of wisdom. It is not called the middle way because it lies between too much and too litt...
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Besting the Holiday Blues

By Christian J. Billington, MA, NCC The holidays can be a busy time: a time for family, gift giving, reflection, well-established social expectations, and commitments. At the same time, the holidays can exaggerate stress, anxiety, loss, and loneliness. Sometimes the stressors can overwhelm the magic of the season. What follows are a few ideas to help you negotiate these difficulties. Instead of waiting for problems to erupt, consider strategies and skills ahead of time to help manage h...
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Setting Realistic Expectations for Your Child

By Lavinia Ball-Marian, MA, LPC In my work with children and their parents, I frequently learn that the parent’s expectations of their children are unrealistic. And not having their expectations met brings parents a lot of disappointment, which translates into consequences for children, turmoil, and breaks in the child/parent relationship. To help you navigate this tricky terrain, I would like to share some thoughts about how to set realistic expectations for your child. I grew up in Roma...
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The Perfect Storm – Perfectionism in Relationships

By Lesley S. Cunningham, MA, LPC We all say, “No one’s perfect!” But there is a subset of people who frankly strive to be and can seem pretty close. Born Perfect We are born as perfect as we will ever be: untainted, un-programmed, and un-manipulated. But soon thereafter, our well-intentioned parents may begin “fulfilling their dreams” through us, consciously and unconsciously. The dreams for their children hopefully will be translated into shaping behaviors that turn boys into success...
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