Does My Child Need ADHD Testing?

By Eleanor Harrison, PhD I get many phone calls from parents who want ADHD testing for their child. Often, the child is doing poorly in school, displaying behavior problems, or is having difficulty with friendships. Sometimes, a teacher, friend, or relative has suggested the child may have ADHD. A sibling or parent might have recently been diagnosed with ADHD. So when is it a good idea to pursue an ADHD evaluation? ADHD was the diagnosis of the day not long ago. It seemed that many child...
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Besting the Holiday Blues

By Christian J. Billington, MA, NCC The holidays can be a busy time: a time for family, gift giving, reflection, well-established social expectations, and commitments. At the same time, the holidays can exaggerate stress, anxiety, loss, and loneliness. Sometimes the stressors can overwhelm the magic of the season. What follows are a few ideas to help you negotiate these difficulties. Instead of waiting for problems to erupt, consider strategies and skills ahead of time to help manage h...
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The Importance of Empathy

By Lavinia Ball-Marian, MA, LPC According to the dictionary, empathy is “the feeling that you understand and share another person's experiences and emotions: the ability to share someone else's feelings.” In my work with parents and children, I often find that empathy is almost non-existent in certain individuals. They understand that someone is hurt or in pain or grieving but have no ability to put themselves in that person’s shoes. A heart without empathy is like a plant without water – it...
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School Attendance: A Slippery Slope

By Eleanor Harrison, PhD School attendance is something I never thought about as a parent. My children went to school most days unless one of them was sick. My friends sometimes kept their kids home for “free” days or went on long vacations during the school year. When I took a job with a school district as a support to the truancy program, I learned a number of things about school attendance that I thought I would share with you. Attendance Habits Start in Kindergarten Studies have shown...
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Preparing Children For Change

By Lavinia Ball-Marian, MA, LPC A few months ago we decided to move to a different town. In addition to requiring negotiating, logistical planning, and lots of sweat work, the move involved preparing our daughter for what was to come. With the excitement of moving also came the fear of the unknown, for both my daughter and me. Tons of questions went through our heads and we knew that we were going to miss our town – our friends, the restaurants, the stores – everything that had been fami...
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Why I Can’t Say, “Good Job!”

  By Jaime Davila, MA, LPC, NCC Becoming a father can be a great and frightening experience all at the same time. Once the household settles down a bit – well, at least to the new normal, we are quickly physically and emotionally consumed beyond what we previously thought was possible. As we grow into this new role of father and our partner into his or her new role, we witness many enjoyable and challenging life events – from the transition from foods that don’t really resemble food t...
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Parenting With Love

By Lavinia Ball-Marian, MA, LPC Parenting is a wonderful job and it can be equally pleasant and hard. When we become parents, nobody hands us a manual that will teach us what to do for the next 18 years. Nobody has written instructions for the way we have to spend our days being parents, seven days a week, many hours a day. We figure it out one day at a time, we make mistakes, we sometimes learn from them, other times we repeat them. Sometimes we make a phone call to our parents and ask for t...
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